This
is an old blog that pretty much still rings truth within me. What are your
thoughts ? I’m curious to see how our perspective in this topic has changed.
It's been a long
time since I have been thinking of writing about singleness, in fact I have
spent about a year and half asking married, engaged, and singles, in and outside
the church what difficulties as well as joys has the season of singleness
provided. The answers were similar. This is what God revealed.
Being vulnerable
through the season of singleness can be an overwhelming task of the heart. The
lies hit you left and right, "I'm not good enough, I'm too this, I’m not
that..." and the list goes on. Everything in you in and outside of you
tells you that once you find "the one" all will be as it should. Big
misconception, I have talked to many married men and women and have come to
understand, that is not the case. Marriage
is a beautiful covenant with perks and struggles just like being single has
it's joys and hurts.
The joys of being
single run deep, Paul tells us in 2 Corinthians 7:35 that there are benefits!
"I say this
for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good
order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.
We have been set
apart because He has loved us first. Let that resonate WE ARE SET APART for HIS
GLORY. It is no accident; we are single because His will and timing are not
constrained to our wants. He knows beyond a doubt, what we need. Ladies and
gentlemen we are in desperate need of King Jesus.
How many times have you heard "Delight
yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart."
-Psalm 37:4 If you have been waiting and have not received, understand that it
is not because you have not delighted in the Lord. Marriage is not the end
point, Christ is. Better yet He is our
perfect beginning. I forget that too often. Many can attest to the countless of
tears I've shed in this particular season. I myself can name a few brothers and
sisters who have wept on account of being single, because on a good day it
hurts. This world Brothers and sisters is not for us. In the mist of loneliness
your feelings are valid, they are not ignored.
Let us not forget that we are relentlessly pursued by the one who has written
our names in His hand. We are not a forgotten people group. We have been found
rescued and redeemed. That's joy!
If you are called to be married, pray for your
future spouse that she or him would Love the Lord and delight in Him apart from
you.
There is a quote by
C.S. Lewis that has given me a peace and understanding as I walk in God's grace
given singleness.
“To love you as I
should, I must worship God as Creator.
When I have learnt
to love God better than my earthly dearest, I shall love my earthly dearest
better than I do now. In so far as I learn to love my earthly dearest at the
expense of God and instead of God, I shall be moving towards the state in which
I shall not love my earthly dearest all. When first things are put first,
second things are not suppressed but increased.”
Blessings to you.
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